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How To Have Oral Sex

Posted By: Robert Thomson | Posted On: 2008-11-19 | Article ID: 117277

Cunnilingus and fellatio - two terms that certainly are a bit of a mouthful!

OK, OK, forgive the pun. It's doubtless only witty if you're getting normal oral sex. And how many people do? Possibly less than you think. One of my oldest friends once confided to me that he couldn't encourage his partner to go down on him - to give him fellatio. And was he ever getting the opportunity to go down on her? No way - she made that absolute from the commencement of their relationship.

He was desperately gloomy about it, in part because he knew how good it feels, but also because he knew how much enjoyable pleasure she would get if she let him try it on her. But she seemed to be obsessed by the belief that the genitals were "dirty", and nothing would induce her to let a lover's tongue and lips anyplace near them. Ironically, did she but know it, the healthy female vagina is an extremely clean place - far cleaner than the mouth as far as bacteria are concerned.

Most men know clearly just how pleasurable it is to obtain oral sex, though many have told me they like giving it to a lover almost as much. But women might be more unwilling to give oral sex than to welcome it. If you're a man in this position, what's to be done? Many of the web sites on this matter are not printed in a female-friendly way, and could simply be off-putting rather than encouraging if you were to present a hesitant partner to them. But if a lover is loath to perform fellatio when you want her to, anything more than gentle persuasion could become into a big relationship problem.

In the end, you might have to decide what is more important to you. And guys, let's have a bit of sensitivity over this: it is every partner's right to say "No" to sexual activites which they find unappealing.

But it's also important to get to the basis of a woman's concern about oral sex: is it that she might choke? Or that you might ejaculate in her mouth? These fears are understandable: semen might not taste as pleasant as you think, and it can indeed absorb the taste of what you've lately eaten, especially spices (e.g. curry) and beer. Worst of all, so I am told, is asparagus.

Of course if you can't get your female partner to give you fellatio, it's a disappointment, and it may suggest some quite pressing sexual issues. Perhaps she believes sex itself is "dirty", and good girls don't do that kind of thing. Maybe her position would change if you spent some time indulging her oral sexual pleasure? If this doesn't work, or if she doesn't want you to do it to her, then talking about it may help to resolve the underlying issues.

The saddest thing of all is that cunnilingus (the use of the partner's tongue, lips and mouth on a woman's sexual organs) seems to be one way in which most women can attain orgasm fairly simply. A study by Men's Health magazine showed that oral sex by men for women was "one of the most preferred and exciting sexual activities that a man could offer to a woman; over and over again, the women said how much they loved it." It also has been ranked as the most satisfying action a man can do for a woman. In another study 81% of women said that they could come to orgasm through oral sex.

It stands to reason, because I can't think of anything more exciting right now than the scent and taste of a vagina. So close to their lover, most men will become highly aroused, and their bigger energy and enthusiasm will feed their lover's feeling of being loved and wanted: it's very flattering for a woman to know that she turns her partner on so profoundly. Furthermore, there is a profound significance in the act of "going down" on a woman - something to do with her being exciting, something that says how she is respected and loved.

We're still motivated at some hidden level by our animal origin, and even though I understand for some men and women that the "animalistic" aspects of sex can be a bit off-putting, perhaps we should just give permission to ourselves to react to our basic desires and enjoy the openly stimulating sights and scents of a partner's intimate regions.

But if the smell and taste of your partner's genitals actually does bother you, then why not work a warm} bath and massage session into your lovemaking? And of course this particular problem cuts both ways, for men sometimes need to ensure their hygiene is up to scratch.

The best way to find out how to give oral pleasure to a woman is to hear what your partner says she wishes. But you can make a good start by studying a fantastic account of how to do oral sex on a web-site that contains a detailed description of cunnilingus, printed sensitively and imaginatively for men: http://www.my-penis.org/

One closing point - there is a small number of men who find the idea of orally pleasuring their partners an uncomfortable one. So try this picture: in ancient Chinese art, a woman's genitals are regularly depicted as a peony flower. And if you take a aroma of a peony, your face is engulfed in a huge, scented bunch of pink petals. Delicious!

 

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Robert Thomson
Rod Smith is a counselor with www.my-penis.org..



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