Home | News & Society | Sexuality

How To Enjoy Oral Sex

Posted By: Robert Thomson | Posted On: 2008-11-19 | Article ID: 117276

Cunnilingus and fellatio - two words that certainly are a bit of a challenge!

OK, OK, forgive the pun. It's doubtless only funny if you're getting customary oral sex. And how many people do? Doubtless fewer than you think. One of my oldest friends once confided to me that he couldn't encourage his lover to go down on him - to give him fellatio. And was he ever getting the option to go down on her? No way - she made that explicit from the beginning of their relationship.

He was desperately depressed about it, partially because he knew how pleasurable it feels, but also because he knew how much sexy pleasure she would get if she let him try it on her. But she seemed to be obsessed by the belief that the genitals were "dirty", and nothing would induce her to let a lover's mouth anyplace near them. Ironically, did she but know it, the healthy female vagina is an extremely bacteria-free place - far cleaner than the mouth as far as bacteria are concerned.

Most men know exactly just how pleasurable it is to receive oral sex, though many have told me they enjoy offering it to a lover almost as much. But women appear to be more unwilling to give oral sex than to receive it. If you're a man in this position, what's to be done? Many of the web sites on this theme are not printed in a female-friendly way, and could clearly be off-putting rather than encouraging if you were to introduce a reluctant partner to them. But if a lover is loath to perform fellatio when you want her to, anything more than gentle persuasion could spiral into a big relationship issue.

In the end, you might have to respect what is more important to you. And guys, let's have a bit of sensitivity over this: it is every partner's right to say "No" to sexual activites which they find unappealing.

But it's also important to get to the source of a woman's concern about oral sex: is it that she might choke? Or that you might ejaculate in her mouth? These fears are understandable: semen might not taste as nice as you think, and it can surely absorb the taste of what you've just eaten, especially spices (e.g. curry) and beer. Nastiest of all, so I am told, is asparagus.

Of course if you can't get your female partner to give you fellatio, it's a disappointment, and it may suggest some fairly deep sexual issues. Perhaps she believes sex itself is "dirty", and good girls don't do that kind of thing. Possibly her view would change if you spent some time generous her oral sexual pleasure? If this doesn't work, or if she doesn't want you to do it to her, then talking about it may help to resolve the underlying issues.

The saddest thing of all is that cunnilingus (the use of the partner's tongue, lips and mouth on a woman's sexual organs) seems to be one way in which most women can attain orgasm fairly clearly. A study by Men's Health magazine revealed that oral sex by men for women was "one of the most desired and exciting sexual activities that a man could perform for a woman; over and over again, the women said how much they loved it." It also has been ranked as the most satisfying action a man can do for a woman. In another study 81% of women said that they could come to orgasm through oral sex.

It stands to reason, because I can't think of anything at all more exciting right now than the scent and taste of a vagina. So close to their lover, most men will become highly aroused, and their bigger energy and enthusiasm will feed their lover's feeling of being loved and wanted: it's entirely flattering for a woman to know that she turns her partner on so profoundly. Furthermore, there is a profound significance in the act of "going down" on a woman - something to do with her being desired, something that says how she is respected and loved.

We're still obsessed at some deep level by our animal ancestry, and even though I understand for some men and women that the "animalistic" aspects of sex can be a bit off-putting, perhaps we should just give permission to ourselves to respond to our fundamental desires and enjoy the naturally stimulating sights and scents of a partner's intimate regions.

But if the smell and taste of your partner's genitals truly does trouble you, then why not work a tender} bath and massage session into your lovemaking? And of course this particular issue cuts both ways, for men sometimes need to guarantee their hygiene is up to scratch.

The best way to find out how to give oral pleasure to a woman is to hear what your partner says she wishes. But you can make a good start by studying a fantastic account of how to do oral sex on a web-site that contains a complete description of cunnilingus, printed sensitively and imaginatively for men: http://www.my-penis.org/

One closing point - there is a small number of men who find the idea of orally pleasuring their partners an uncomfortable one. So try this picture: in ancient Chinese art, a woman's genitals are often depicted as a peony flower. And if you take a whiff of a peony, your face is engulfed in a immense, perfumed mass of pink petals. Delicious!

 

Article Source: http://www.articlecell.com

About The Author
Robert Thomson
Rod Smith is a counselor with www.my-penis.org..



Please Rate this Article     
Not yet Rated

 


 



Ken Wilson
Author ID - 2683
    View - Ken's Profile
    View - Ken's Articles

Lee Dobbins
Author ID - 148
    View - Lee's Profile
    View - Lee's Articles

Jim McDonald
Author ID - 1638
    View - Jim's Profile
    View - Jim's Articles
 Submit Articles
 Member Login
 Submission Guidelines
 Ezine Notifications
 Popular Articles
 Article RSS Feeds
 New Stuff
 About Us
 Link to Us
 Contact Us
 Privacy Policy
 Terms of Service
 

EnterArticles.com

Submit Articles

 

Monsterputt.com

Golf Clubs and Accessories

 

MarketingAU.com

Internet Marketing Help


 

ArticleCell.com » Copyright © 2006 - 2007
Terms of Service | Submission Guidelines | Contact Us | Link to Us | Privacy Policy | About Us

Bridgestone J33R 460CC Driver | J36 Cavity Back Irons | Bridgestone Golf

Powered by Article Dashboard