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Forty Terrible Mistakes You Can Make Making Love With A Woman

Posted By: Robert Thomson | Posted On: 2008-09-06 | Article ID: 91952

1) Going straight for her vulva, clitoris or breasts

A woman is probably going to be irritated than sexually excited when a man heads for her breasts and vulva after a few minutes' kissing. Be aware of what she needs and touch her sexual areas only when she's already aroused. If you go for her breasts when you get her into bed and twiddle her nipples like you're tuning a radio station, you're not going to get the right signals.

2) Not knowing how to kiss romantically

Passionate kissing is a skill which eases a couple into the main part of sex and cultivates intimacy. Learn how to kiss your partner, and do it well. That doesn't include sticking your tongue between her teeth and wiggling it around like you're trying to clean her teeth.

3) Not respecting her erogenous zones

Men like to have a strong touch applied to their penis. But if you approach her clitoris with the same as you apply to your penis when you're treating Mr. Happy to a quick morning massage, she's likely to howl with pain - and kick you out of bed. The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings, so it's very sensitive. Treat it accordingly.

4) Not stroking her gently

A woman's biggest sex organ is her mind. The next biggest is her skin. If you were thinking of anything else, think again. For a woman, sex is all about connection. And that includes skin to skin contact. An hour spent massaging her will arouse her to her need for sex and almost certainly guarantee she has an orgasm one way or another. So ensure you focus on putting some sexual energy into your fingers while you stroke. That means not thinking distractedly about the baseball game while you're oiling her up.

5) Locking onto her nipples like a suckling child

Tempting though it may be to suck on her breasts, she's not going to want you reminding her of the last time a teething child bit into her nipple. Kiss all around her areolae and gently work towards her nipple, gently licking it with your tongue and maybe sucking it between your lips when she's really excited. If she likes what you're doing, you'll know by her moans of delight.

6) Biting or blowing on her ear because you think it's sexy

Very few women seem to find this exciting. Your time would be better spent searching out her erogenous zones elsewhere.

7) Leaving a hickey on her neck

If you're over the age of consent, this is a no-no. If you need to know why, you're obviously under age and you shouldn't be having sex.

8) Not shaving before sex

Think what it was like the last time you gave oral sex to a woman with a few days' stubble around her vulva. Now imagine that brushing back and forth on your face in the erotic throes of passionate kissing. Enough said?

9) Not washing your smelly bits before you have sex

Even if you just have what the French call a tart's wash, make sure you're clean when you enter the bedroom. (In case you need to know - the male equivalent is washing your penis, balls, ass, and armpits.)

10) Forgetting that romance starts a long time before sex

No woman wants to be taken for granted. If you touch her lovingly all day, keep shooting her sexy, loving looks, and take the trouble to make sure she knows you love her, she'll be ready to melt into your arms by bedtime. Leaving loving little noteswhere she'll find them is also a good idea. That doesn't include functional notes like "Don't forget to collect the dog from the vets, lots of love."

11) Inserting a finger before she's ready

Yes, we know you want to get into her. But hold on. Take your time, let events move at their own pace, and only gently put that finger up her vagina when she's ready. While men forget that women like penetration just as much as men (which is just as well, when you think how much men like to stick things up a woman), she'll only want penetration when she's aroused enough to enjoy it. So as you finger her clit, you can check out her vagina. If it's moist and open, she may well be receptive to a finger on her G-spot. Start gently and apply a firmer touch as you go. If you don't know what the G-spot is, go check it out on Google.

12) Going straight to her clitoris during cunnilingus or masturbation

Most women just find this annoying - and very uncomfortable too, if the clit isn't aroused and slippery. Work from around her labia, the lips around her vulva, towards the clitoris as she gets more sexuall excited. Even then, a subtle touch along the shaft of her clitoris around to the side of the clitoral head may be better for her.

3) Stopping when she wants you to keep going at all costs

If she's almost at orgasm she certainly won't want you to stop whatever you're doing, whether it's with your cock, your fingers or your tongue. Bearing in mind how hard on the tongue cunnilingus can be, we suggest you make sure your fingers are ready to take over if you get a bad case of lock jaw. If she's not saying much, she may be lying there silent because she's got lost in her excitement, not because you're licking ineffectively at her vulva. But then again, how would you know? She may be loving what you're doing that she shows it by pressing her vulva more firmly against your mouth, in which case carry on with your stimulation. If she gives off an aura that she'd rather be cooking the dinner, you need to think of something else. Like asking her what she wants, maybe?

14) Undressing her inelegantly

Listen up guys: you don't have to struggle with those zips while you kiss her. Indeed, she might well appreciate it more if you don't even try. Nothing about an underwear fumble is funny, especially if it interrupts the romance. Let her take off the clothes you don't know about and when you do help, make it look like you're delicately removing her garments rather than pulling at her clothes like you can't wait to fuck her - even if you that's true.

15) Looking like a clown in the bedroom

Nothing is more pathetic to a woman than a man wearing his underpants and shoes. Why this should be so remains a mystery, since it seems so natural to a man to undress like that. However, if you don't want her to take pity on you, take off your socks first.

16) Expecting her to shave for you

Yes, we know you like the smooth look around her vulva, but if she's not into shaving, don't try and make her do it for you. There are few things less comfortable than itchy stubble in the pubes. If you want to see more and have easier access to her pussy, ask her to lightly trim the hair.

17) Entering her without asking her first

Such a bizarre idea! And yet so nice - once in a while - to be romantic and ask "May I enter you?" This can be a very sexy and loving thing to do if you're looking deep into her eyes. Needless to say, that's most likely to happen in the man on top position, which, by the way, remains everyone's most popular position for sex. And then again, there are times when you can just sense the moment for penetration - but don't let your judgment be affected by your desire to fuck here. Yes, we know the urge is hard to resist. But be a man - and make sure she's ready first.

18) Pecking away around her vagina with your penis if you can't find the way in

There is nothing more guaranteed to turn a woman off than you thrusting blindly at her vulva trying to get your penis in her vagina. If you can't find the way in (it happens) on your own, tell her what's going on and ask her to guide your penis in. There's no shame in that, but acting like a clown can ruin sex for you both. And anyway, it'll be quicker if she just puts it in for you.

19) Thrusting away without regard for her pleasure

Now you're in! Hurrah! But whatcha gonna do next? Pump away heartily till you ejaculate? Bad idea.....surely you'll want to show some consideration for her pleasure? Start with slow and shallow thrusts. When you make love, she'll like it best if you act like a real man: be confident, know what you're doing, be considerate and gentle at first, and work up to more powerful thrusts if she starts moaning with pleasure (as in "oh, yes, fuck me harder!").

20) Expecting her to willingly offer her bottom to you when you want rear entry sex

It's a man thing, the desire for rear entry sex. Mostly. Then again, women sometimes get the urge for rampant, primal sex too. In between, you might get it on your birthday, if you're lucky. And if you do persuade her to get her ass in the air, don't make the mistake of slapping her rump like you're riding a horse.

21) Thrusting too hard when you have a big penis

If you happen to have a large member, restrain yourself as you thrust, or you might hear her shriek as you bang into her cervix. This will not, in all likelihood, be a shriek of sexual pleasure. It may, however, signal the end of your pleasure for the moment.

22) Premature ejaculation is not the mark of a mature lover

Sadly few men have the endurance that allows them to really please a woman who enjoys vaginal intercourse and G-spot stimulation. You can improve your endurance with self help exercises, but if you just can't be bothered, at least have the consideration to keep going for at least long enough to give her some pleasure. Do some research on Google for "end premature ejaculation".

23) Not coming at all - delayed ejaculation

Delayed ejaculation is not the gift of the gods that you might think. She won't see it as in any way attractive, either, when her cunt is bone dry, she's bored out of her mind and you still aren't anywhere near ejaculating. So if you are one of the ten percent of men who have trouble ejaculating, go see a sexual therapist! The sooner you get treated, the sooner she'll be able to enjoy making love with you and stop having plenty of time to think about her shopping list.

24) Losing your hard-on when you put the condom on

This is very common, so it's back to Google for you. Try a search on "losing erection when putting on a condom" and see if you can find a solutions.

25) Not being willing to go down on her when she wants cunnilingus

Most men like the idea of going down on a woman, so any reservations must be about her smell or taste. If she's a bit well, fishy, then suggest a shower as part of foreplay. If you just want her to suck your cock and you won't reciprocate, reading these tips isn't going to help you much anyway.

26) Failing to ensure her pleasure if you have premature ejaculation

By the way, women come first - at least where sex is concerned. She doesn't want to lie next to you as you snore gently after a big orgasm while she's still frustrated. We men lose interest in fucking once we've come - so make sure sh

 

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Robert Thomson
The author publishes Men and The Penis. You can find more articles at All About The Penis.





 


 
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